This is something I never want my kids to experience, though I'm sure they will. I just hope it will never be because of me. What made me write this is bubbles. Sitting at my mom's house at 11:30 at night, staring, glaring, and blowing bubbles at my husband. Between this sentence and the last, I walked home with his promise to come home soon. (I always write in my notebook first, then type it.)
As I was blowing bubbles, I held the bubble wand up to the air conditioner to see if it would blow bubbles. (It didn't) This led to me wondering if bubbles lasted longer in hot or cold conditions. I was going to ask my husband, my brother-in-law, and my youngest sister what they thought the answer was, but quickly dismissed the idea, deciding it was stupid and I would sound stupid for asking.
I've felt this a lot, despite the saying "There are no stupid questions..". I'm often too scared to ask something, because someone might think it, and I by connection, am stupid. I don't like showing people my writing, drawings, my thought, anything I do, all because I'm afraid they'll think I'm stupid. I don't even like sharing these things with my husband. This is not good behavior. I don't want to teach my kids that this is okay by doing it myself. This is a habit I need to break before I even have kids, before I pass it to them and they start feeling stupid just for wanting to learn, to know something new. There is nothing wrong with asking things just to know.
"Because" is not a real answer to adults, why should we tell kids that it is? I'm sure I'll use 'because' as an answer when I have a two-year-old who won't stop asking "Why?" to everything, but I shouldn't.
I never want my kids to feel stupid, or embarrassed, or weird for asking a question. No one ever should. They should just be happy they're learning something new.
As I was blowing bubbles, I held the bubble wand up to the air conditioner to see if it would blow bubbles. (It didn't) This led to me wondering if bubbles lasted longer in hot or cold conditions. I was going to ask my husband, my brother-in-law, and my youngest sister what they thought the answer was, but quickly dismissed the idea, deciding it was stupid and I would sound stupid for asking.
I've felt this a lot, despite the saying "There are no stupid questions..". I'm often too scared to ask something, because someone might think it, and I by connection, am stupid. I don't like showing people my writing, drawings, my thought, anything I do, all because I'm afraid they'll think I'm stupid. I don't even like sharing these things with my husband. This is not good behavior. I don't want to teach my kids that this is okay by doing it myself. This is a habit I need to break before I even have kids, before I pass it to them and they start feeling stupid just for wanting to learn, to know something new. There is nothing wrong with asking things just to know.
"Because" is not a real answer to adults, why should we tell kids that it is? I'm sure I'll use 'because' as an answer when I have a two-year-old who won't stop asking "Why?" to everything, but I shouldn't.
I never want my kids to feel stupid, or embarrassed, or weird for asking a question. No one ever should. They should just be happy they're learning something new.
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